Changes, changes all around me…

Posted on: May 2, 2011

You and I can not change or control the world around us, but we can change and control the world within us.  Warren Wiersbe 

Oh, how the world around me is changing!  Our youngest child, Joel, will be dual-enrolling at the local college in the fall.  That means that after 25 years of homeschooling seven children, I have almost finished this race.

Just parenting seven children (five born within 6 1/2 years) brought huge changes to my life, most importantly because I didn’t have the example of parental attention or love as a child.  As one can imagine, I had a lot of growing up to do myself, and those first few children felt the impact.  I’ll probably write more on that some day.

But, homeschooling? That was Bill’s idea.  I eventually got on board with it, and it brought so many more changes to my life than I could have ever expected – especially for a girl who dropped out of high school.  How insecure it feels to basically say to the state, “I can do a better job teaching my children than you can,” when you secretly wonder if you can.

So a couple of years ago, with this finish line almost in sight, I entertained the idea that it wouldn’t be long until I could rest of my laurels (or kick up my heels) when I completed this course.  Unlike some of my friends who love teaching (and love their children), I only love my children and do not like teaching.  More specifically, I don’t like switching hats from mommy to teacher to nurturer, back to mommy, then to teacher (then to prison guard – LOL), then back to mommy, then to teacher, nurturer, repeat.  I didn’t like it, but how it forced me into needed changes.   And that leads me to my next life-verse (my life-verses keep changing, too).

Come now, you who say, “Today or tomorrow – or next year – we will rest on our laurels or kick up our heels after finishing an iron-man of a homeschooling adventure.” Yet you do not know what your life will be like tomorrow.  You are just a vapor that appears for a little while and then vanishes away.  Instead, you ought to say, “If the Lord wills, we will rest on our laurels or kick up our heels, and also do this or that.”  James 4-kind of…

Then two years ago, Bill took an early “retirement” – and promptly went into business for himself.   That meant that all the free time I would have gained not homeschooling has been spent (and much, much more) learning how to run a home office and understand QuickBooks.   At my age, no less.  That in itself has brought huge changes for a woman who loves writing words, not tracking pesky, unforgiving numbers.

And just to keep life changing, Bill’s dream to sail became a reality last weekend with his adoption of a 26′ sailboat.  Me?  On a sailboat?  Me, who loves to walk romantically along the beach as long as I don’t have to actually get into the ocean, is going to learn to sail?  On the ocean?  I expect many future posts about this new adventure, and have created a page for sailing (which Bill thinks is a very worthy endeavor!).

So, by grace, this mother who was raised in a highly dysfunctional, secular environment, had seven children who have turned out to be the most amazing people (each of whom she wants to be like in so many ways).  By grace, this girl who quit high school actually taught them to read, and watched them fly from there, each finishing well (one to go, but he is on his way).  By grace, this writer who will never (ever!) enjoy tracking debits and credits is now (somewhat clumsily, but eventually successfully) keeping the books for her husband’s companies.  And by grace, this woman who has never been fond of water is now going to learn to sail.  By grace.

My grace is sufficient for you, for power is perfected in weakness.  2 Cor 12:9

And now for this blog.  I absolutely love to write.  It is therapeutic form of word-sculpture, and is very fun for me.  However, with all these changes, I hope I will be able to find – no, to make – the time for it.  (I have actually created this blog while away sailing/working with Bill and Joel for the week.)  We will see if I can keep it up when I jump back into real life in a few days.

And now, I must get ready to leave with Bill for a business meeting.  One of those changes I am still not used to….

42 Responses to "Changes, changes all around me…"

Thank you Mardy! This piece of art inspired me again. Beautiful!

I know what you are going thru. PTL you have wonderful children. What a blessing!!
Any grandbabies?

Yes, our Jon and his wife Sally have THE most adorable 2 year old, Jack. They live in Fresno, so I spend a lot of time drooling over his FaceBook page which Sally keeps loaded for us. What joy….

You’re an amazing mom! Love you always

Back at you, Barbara. Thank you!

Thank you, Barbara, for your friendship and love. It means a lot.

Good to hear from you again.

I have never seen any homeschool blogger put it the way you have: “I love my kids, but I don’t love teaching.” And the bit about putting on the different hats — that’s it exactly. I think my teacher hat might be hurting my mommy hat, because I think I am a more loving and patient mommy than I am patient and loving teacher. But after 14 years of this I’m still trying. Unfortunately for me, my kids span in age from 19 to 2 years old, and I’m NEVER going to be done. I’m afraid it will have to be the grace of God for me!

Hi Janet, You and I have almost the same age span w/our children – I am probably just older than you, and therefore finishing a earlier. When our now 30 year-old was 19, our baby was 4, and I was right at the 15 year mark homeschooling. You will be done one day, but the lessons we learn on the way will carve out who we are when we finish. Many blessings to you…

Love you!

Thank you, Jennifer! Love you back…

I just typed “Love you!” on here and it told me I had already said that :)!!!! This website is on the ball!

Always fun to read your writing, Mardy. Wow, you’re all but done with Joel, and I still have 6-7 years left with Hank! (And I think I’ll have a granddaughter in Windsor soon too – how will I ever force myself to quit?)

Hahaha, you will always be teaching children, Gen, but you are soooo much better at it than I! Thank you!

this is wonderful, mardy. i look forward to following your blog and keeping up with your thoughts :). just for the record, i love your 2 boys – the 2 that i know – you’re a marvelous mom! alice hendon

Back at you, Alice. Thank you!

Thank you, Alice. So thoughtful. I will miss seeing you at NCFCA events. Love you, Friend.

Mardy, you are an amazong person — and better yet, we have an Amazing God, who could help you to do what would humanly seem impossible.

I look forward to reading your blog as you have much wisdom to share. May God help you to carve out that time; remember, He is in the business of doing the impossible.

By the way, if you want to buddy up with a Christian who is an author and sails around the world literally, I can connect you. She is an AMAZING Christian woman, and has written a spiritual book about sailing with her husband.

Thank you, Lori! Yes, send me the blog info. I love reading yours, too…

Oh, I was wondering where the boat came from. LOL. Have fun! Love you! :o)

I’m so thankful that you are writing again! I still reread your books Children of Charater I & II on ocassion. You have been a wonderful inspiration to me as you shine a light head on this path. Thank you for your refreshing honesty.

Thank you, Melanie! I hope we connect again next year, through speech club or Moms’ meetings, or more…

Oh my…I can so relate to the loving to mommy, but not liking the home schooling part.

Me, too. And that is where the change begins….

What a great way to put it… I love my children but don’t love teaching! Thanks for being an example of how the Lord can help us finish the race. So glad you put me on your blog list. Want to keep up and keep in touch. Thanks for being so transparent!

Good to hear from you, Patty. Thank you!

Lovely! I too, love to write. Your family has always been an inspiration to me, and I can relate to lots of what you mention in your blog. I look forward to sharing your new adventures with you. God bless you and yours daily! Love, Sue

Thank you, Sue! Many blessings….

Good to see you writing again! Your stories about life are inspiring, uplifting, funny and quite enjoyable!

Looking forward to reading your chronicles of the exciting race of life.

I LOVE reading your writing, Mardy!! Your warmth & honesty is contained within the lines. So glad you’re making the time to share your life on a blog!! 🙂

Thank you for the update, Mardy. Glad to see all is well and you’re taking on new adventures! Enjoy your blogging!

Mardy, I linked to your post in my new Friday Favorites!

You have been such an encouragement to me over the years!

~~ Virginia

Wow, thank you, Virginia! I don’t know how much time I’ll find to write, but it is definitely fun trying!

Mardy, I’m so glad you are blogging! I’ll look forward to each post!
Love you!

thanks for the encouragment!

Very refreshing & Encouraging – some similarities to my “story”. Thank you and God Bless!

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